Monday, November 18, 2013

Is she overly sensitive or am I insensitive?

Disclaimer:  Both myself and the other blogger I refer to are white and in our 20s so we may not really have a clue what we are talking about.

So I watched an awesome video today.  Go ahead and watch and love it.  You can also see all of the sketches here. . .

Then read this rant not related to the video but what I thought was the rather harsh critique on it linked below the video. It says Dove missed the mark by still focusing on physical beauty.  Which according to that blogger we shouldn't do at all.  I think she would be happy if physical beauty was never referred to in media or social interactions again. But her biggest objection to it is that the differing races are not given equal attention and it is predominately white.  I totally, 100%, agree in racial equality and equal representation.  But after looking at all of the sketches a couple of times I would have featured the same ones Dove did not based on race but based on the fact that they had the most dramatically different results.  That to me is equality.  If I choose them because we needed one more black person that isn't just looking at people as people that is looking at people only for their color.

Also if we are talking about equal representation, "the U.S. population is 63.7% White, 16.3% Hispanic or Latino, 12.2% Black or African American, 4.7% Asian, 0.7% American Indian or Alaska Native, 0.2% Native Hawaiian or Other Pacific Islander, 0.2% some other race, and 1.9% two or more races, for a total of 100%." *According to business insider based on the 2010 US census.

P.S. I did try looking up the data for myself but they make it very hard to access racial information and it can be hard to quantify because of over lapping race and ethnic questions.  If you don't believe me check out census.gov for yourself.

Just like in my earlier rant about gender equality, equal does not mean the same.

In the case of race God given equality and equal rights is not the same as equal numbers.

Now really we are all the freaking same so in a perfect world it should matter one bit what the hue of our skin is.  People are people so a white majority vote or population or black majority shouldn't freaking change anything but I know it does.

Still equal representation isn't 2 white people, 2 black people, 2 asian people, ect.  Equal representation is: "63.7% White, 16.3% Hispanic or Latino, 12.2% Black or African American, 4.7% Asian, 0.7% American Indian or Alaska Native, 0.2% Native Hawaiian or Other Pacific Islander, 0.2% some other race, and 1.9% two or more races".

And if you want to talk about distorted representation check out this government page.  See how Hispanics (16%) get 2 link compared to African-Americans (12%) get 12 links?

And since I'm at it, and I know I'll get hate male for this; if I can't describe someone as black, if I have to say African-American then I can't be called white (cause really if you look at the color white and look at my skin I'm more of a peach color) I desire to always be referred to as caucasian.  Or since I'm only third generation American born as opposed to many people's 5-6 generations I would really prefer to be called Norwegian-American or  since we don't really specify which country in Africa or Asia people may have descended from Scandinavian-American would be better.

Not really that's ridiculous.  Can we all just call American citizens Americans?  That would be cool.
Unless of course you really are African-American like my cute little nephew who was born to one American parent and one Kenyan parent here on visa.  In my opinion he has all the right in the world to refer to himself as African-American.

*Personal note even as a kid I never answered race, ethnicity, gender, or religion question, not even age if I don't think it relevant.  Because I think they are stupid and shouldn't matter any more than if it is horse poop or cow poop burning on your porch, it stinks either way!
  -Except at a doctors office in which all of those, -religion, could have health factors.



Thursday, October 10, 2013

Dear Elder Neil L. Andersen, I love you. Sincerely, Camaree

Here is a crazy thought for you . . . 
I am a Mormon, stay-at-home-mom, who considers herself a feminist.  Let that blow your mind for a minute.

Now here is a question . . .
What is the Priesthood?

Any hands from my Christian friends?  Mormon friends specifically? . . . I can't really see your hands so I'll just give you the answer.

The Priesthood is the Power of God on Earth.

Go ahead let that sink in.


Any heads spinning yet?  Any of you just now realizing that the priesthood is not Daddy or Uncle Joe or the boys that bless the sacrament or the Bishop or even the Prophet?!?

I actually had a middle-aged, well educated, well respected, highly called upon women say to me at girls camp this year many things like "That is the priesthood cabin", "Someone go get the priesthood", "The priesthood will do that" when referring to the men at the camp.  Seriously my tongue was bloody.  That is the men's cabin.  I doubt the Priesthood could be contained in a cabin.

Members of our church commonly refer to the worthy men in the membership as the Priesthood.  Well they aren't, it isn't, it's just wrong.

The Priesthood is the Power of God on Earth.  If you don't believe me this is what Elder Andersen said in his talk at conference just last week, "We sometimes overly associate the power of the priesthood with men in the Church. The priesthood is the power and authority of God given for the salvation and blessing of all—men, women, and children."

I know many of you understand this principal correctly.  But there is an even bigger misconception amid members of the church.  It is demonstrated by "Mormon Feminist" protesting outside General Conference but is held by all most EVERYONE . . .

That only men hold the Priesthood.

Only men are ordained to offices of the Priesthood and ask to administer certain duties and given certain keys.

But anyone faithful enough can have and use the Priesthood- the Power of God.  Anyone can call upon Heaven for help and bring in the Power of God.

Women do it all the time without being asked, without realizing it.  And I think that is why women have not been specifically assigned to do it.  They-we don't need an assignment, we are women, we see a need and we fill it, usually without being asked.  It is in our nature.  Let me explain.

A loved one is sick - really sick.  The men have to be called in and told to please ask God to bless this individual.  What are the women already doing?  They are already on their knees saying "Father please bless them".  You don't think it is the same?  Then you have never heard the prayer of a mother over her dying child.   Do you think a women's prayers can not bring answers or miracles?

Do you think I am way off mark?  Remember the scene in the church produced movie, The Legacy, when Eliza Williams hit bottom and her Ox had fallen to the ground?  What does she do?  Pray that her Ox will be healed.  That he will get to his feet and carry on.  And what happens?  Does God say "Nope.  Sorry you're a women.  Can't do it"?  No the Ox gets to its feet and she eventually makes it to her destination.  If you need a refresher I couldn't find it online but you can buy it here for $4.  

There is also a clip of this recently produced movie on the official Church website in which a young pioneer girl prays fervently for respite and is granted a miracle of food for her and her mother.

Both examples from the church of women calling upon the Power of God.  We do it every day Sisters.  We are not limited by the struct of the church. We are limited only by our lack of faith and need.

Mathew 17: 20 And Jesus said unto them, Because of your aunbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have bfaith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this cmountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be dimpossible unto you.






I believe Priesthood callings are ordained and granted by God, His power.  I also believe creation of life to be a power of God.  One he grants to women not men.  God has granted some powers to men and some to women.  We need all, we are blessed by all.  Only God can grant these powers not men.

If you do not believe as I do, if you see Priesthood as only a hierarchy of an organization of men and just want to see women "climb the ladder".  Then there really is no God given authority and it is just men calling on men then the whole thing is a sham.  If I believed that I wouldn't be fighting for rights of the Priesthood.  I'd be leaving.  Looking for true authority.



I am a feminist . . . You can disagree. It's ok. Since I am a feminist I make my own labels instead of letting others label me.

Here is a crazy thought for you . . . 
I am a Mormon, stay-at-home-mom who considers herself a feminist.  Let that blow your mind for a minute and then let me clarify.

I'm a stay-at-home mom 90% of the time.  When I do work I wear combat boots.


I am conservative not a modern feminist or an extreme feminist.  Let me tell you what I believe: 

1.)  Women should be able to do whatever a man does if she can do it and vice versa.  

Women should be able to climb the corporate ladder, be in government, with the same opportunities, pay and benefits as a man.  Women are smart, talented, capable, wonderful attributes to the workplace.  

If she wants to stay home fantastic.  If she wants to work go for it.  If he wants to stay home sure.  If he wants to work of course.  Have at it. Whatever you want to do and works for you and your situation thats up to you.   

But a women shouldn't be given a pass just because she is a women.  For example firefighters have to pass stringent physical tests.  Why?  Because they have to be able to carry a stranger or coworker out of a burning dilapidated building if needed.  So I don't think that a female trainee's test should be ANY different than a man's (let me stop you right there - I don't know if they are any different but I know that in some career fields, like mine in the Air Force there is a different fitness standard.  I'm just using it as an example).  If she can't pass the SAME physical test as a man then she shouldn't get the job.  Why?  Because I don't think that 4'11 115 lb me could carry a 6'1 200 lb man with all of his gear on out of a burning building.  *Just a little trivia here: do you think there are more men my size or more women?  Just think about that until I get to my next point. 

Equality is equal expectations.  If you can do the job you can do the job. PERIOD.  Sex, race, whatever, none of that should matter. 

This blogger got it right when she said as a society we have gone past the point of "Women are equal" to "Women are better"  which just is not true.  We need both men and women for society to continue.  

2.) MEN AND WOMEN ARE DIFFERENT!!!!!!  

Seriously people.  Why are we pushing being the same?  We can be equal and still be different.  

MOST, not all, but most men and women have different physical and emotional strengths and weaknesses.  That is just the way that it is.  

We need to be different.  Thats what makes everything work so well.  Why do you think employers were so shocked and impressed by the work that women were doing when they started to flood the workpace?  Because they were DIFFERENT and brought a unique perspective and way of doing things.  

Society is to the point that we are all trying to force each to be the same by covering up our gender.  Why?  Whats wrong with being a women or a man?  

The feminist movement was started to gain rights and respect from men for women.  Now the women are taking respect away from other women by looking down on them.  I don't think some of these ladies want to be women at all. 

I have actually received condensation and smugness for working women for being a stay-at-home-mom in a dress.  They look at me say I am old fashioned or ignorant.  The fact that I have an education and serve in the military or am raising the next generation apparently don't apply here.  They fought to give me rights and choices so I darn well better choose the right to work and wear pants.  

I like dresses.  They are comfortable and hide my huge thighs better than pants.  (I like to bake cookies and take them to the neighbors too.  If you message me I'll give you my address so you can protest my house.  If you give me a heads up I'll make cookies for you.)

Femininity is powerful.  Motherhood is powerful.  Mothers have been changing the world from the beginning of time after all thats were all the the people came from and the vast majority learned their work ethic, hygiene, manners, and moral code from mom.  If good old mom hadn't raised strong fighting girls there would be no feminist movement to do their part in changing the world.  

Check out part 2 to find out how I feel about all of this as a member of the LDS church.  


Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Chocolate or Peach?


A conversation in the car with my 3 year old.  *Keep in mind have never talked to her about this stuff and I assume she picked up off of Daniel Tiger when they talked about what makes us different and what we have in common.  They were totally innocent observations that made me laugh.

Hanna:  Some people have brown hair and some people have blond hair.
Me: Yes, and some people have red hair and some people have black hair.
Hanna: yeah and some people have chocolate skin and some people have peach skin.  Miss Elaina (from Daniel Tiger) has chocolate skin.  Mine is peach.  Hey yours is peach too!
Me: That's right Hanna.  Mines is peach and so is daddy's and Mikey's and Mauree's.
Hanna:  Yeah and Grammy's too.  But Aunt Balerie's (Valerie) is chocolate. And . . . Blake's is light chocolate but Uncle Peter's is dark chocolate.  
Me:  That's right Hanna.  What about Aunt Bianca?
Hanna:  She is . . . um . . . peach?

Miss Elaina

Aunt Valerie

Blake and Uncle Peter
Aunt Bianca and Uncle Robb

Friday, September 27, 2013

Saturday, September 7, 2013

Plan ahead!


The holidays are coming up.  Check out some of my Christmas cards on my Holiday Cards page.  If you need cards email me at camarees@gmail.com




Thursday, September 5, 2013

Trip Calculator!

AAA is awesome.  I was looking on their website at the average gas prices to try and estimate the cost of our next trip and I found that they have a calculator on their website that does it for me!


Friday, August 30, 2013

Life in Kansas

Topeka, KS Air Show
Topeka, KS Air Show
Gardner, KS
Gardner, KS



Johnson County, KS


Gardner, KS





Thursday, August 29, 2013

Missing Utah

Logan, UT

Bear Lake, UT

Bear Lake, UT

Bear Lake, UT

Cache Valley, UT

Ryan's Place Park Providence, UT

Utah State University Football

Logan, UT

Cache Valley, UT

Salt Lake City Temple

Sunset @ Great Salt Lake



Friday, August 23, 2013

Auto Awesome Blast!

Some super cool autoawesomeness brought to you by google and Eric's constant photo snapping.  


Hopscotch



Sit and Spin


Running in the park


Yes he is going to break his bed


Good morning babies


Tbones tailgating



God Bless America





Random Summer pictures

Wind through the hair
Flying High
Front yard picnic 



These girls are so cute!

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Lunch with Daddy!






Our Gay Neighbors

Our gay neighbors and smooshed between a very tradition country, Catholic family and a very devout Mormon family.  Recently they ignored our Kansas laws and ran away to Hawaii to get married.  So the day they came home we vandalized their house.

It seemed like the right thing to do.  I made the hearts, my more liberal catholic partner in crime made the sign. 


I don't agree with, support, or understand their life style but luckily it is not my job to judge them.  My job is to love my neighbor and I sure love having Ryan and Brandon as neighbors.



P.S. It will probably drive them nuts if they see that I posted a picture of their long grass.  So on their behalf please ignore the grass they were on vacation for two weeks. 

Amazon movie deals

Awesome Disney deals on Amazon.


Cinderella for only $14.69!




Tarzan for only $12.96!

And more.  Just go to Amazon and search Disney movies.  I love it when I come across great deals and just thought I would share!



Thursday, August 15, 2013

A toddler's train of thought . . .

My husband is terrible at keeping a journal and isn't into blogger but wants to remember all of the cute things our kids do so he recently started a private google+ group where he could post thoughts, pictures, and videos.  I was looking through it and just had to share this conversation he had last month with our 3 year old daughter:


Eric Sargent

Discussion  -  Jul 11, 2013
1
Hanna has wanted some kid scissors so she could make something. I told her on Sunday that on monday i would buy her some. I forgot both monday and tuesday to get her some, ( which she promptly reminded me when I got home from work). Finally on wednesday I got her some. she was so excited that she immediately wanted to go craft (which we did) she took a blank piece of paper and cut all around the edges. Later that night while getting ready for bed this is the discussion that followed...

Daddy I only have little kid scissors, but when I get big I will have big kid scissors, I will also have a big bed with night stands, where I can climb up. I will also have kids and be a mommy so I can tickle 'em. But right now I only have little kid scissors....

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

INSANITY and Air Force Fitness

Started back up with INSANITY last night and I even got Eric to do it with me.  Three of my cousins, Emily, Gregg, and Scott, started yesterday too which is what helped motivate me, that and the fact that I have an Air Force Fit to Fight fitness test next month which I am totally not prepared for.  So there are five of us in total it should be interesting to see how we all do.

Here are my reps from the first INSANITY fit test used to track ones progress:

Switch Kicks       60
Power Jacks        47
Power Knees        80
Power Jumps        38
Globe Jumps        10
Suicide Jumps      15
Push-Up Jacks      25
Low Plank Oblique  35

I don't think Eric would appreciate me sharing his so I wont.  If you are doing this too just make sure you go a whole rep before you count it.  For example on the last one bring your left leg up and back down and then your right up and back down to complete one rep.

I think I did ok considering I have three kids and haven't worked out regularly since my last fitness test a year ago, on which I scored a 98 out of 100.  My goal this year was to get a 100 but that so isn't going to happen.  I always do well though so I'm not too worried.  The guys in my unit always give me a hard time saying a I score better because my standards aren't as high, true and I do agree with them that it should be the same standards regardless of sex.  However, that does not change the fact that I usually lap them on the track.  And even if I was scored on the guys chart I would have gotten a 92.2 last time which is still considered an excellent score.

Here is the link to the Air Force fitness scoring charts so you can see how you stack up.  You have to measure you waist just above your belly button to get your body composition.  The run in 1.5 miles which is 6 times around a standard high school track.  You have one minute to do as many push-ups as you can and one minute to complete as many sit-ups as you can.  On both the push-ups and sit-ups you start in the up position and count one rep when you return to the up position.  You can do the test in any order you want within a two hour window.  

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Welcome!

Welcome to my little corner of the web!  I think I like this website name better and its meaning.  This is my corner, my space to put my thoughts and ideas out there.  And  . . . I just got a new computer!  A desk top with a REAL keyboard soooo much better for blogging than my ipad or phone ugh, or even worse my broken laptop with several missing keys.  So you can expect to hear from me much more! . . . Hopefully.  I haven't been very consistent with blogging in the past but I feel lately like I have a lot to say and many emotions to express and I haven't been writing in my journal for quiet some time either so I really need an outlet maybe this time it will stick.

kisses

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Pain

It has been over three months since my miscarriage.  I wasn't very far along.  My faith has helped.   But I still feel like I am mourning.  Every time I find out another friend or family member is expecting the emptiness in my own body feels like it will engulf me.  Five families in our tree will welcome little blessings by the end of the year.  And so many friends.  I am happy for all of them I just don't know how to tell them through my own selfish pain.

I watched many women in my life lose pregnancies or struggle with infertility.  My heart has always ached for them as I watched them push through with faith and grace.  I've always wondered how they managed it knowing that if it were me I would fall apart.  But many in my life still don't even know I was pregnant I appear to be just fine.   It makes me wonder how many of those graceful women were falling apart on the inside too.    

After a healthy baby girl and 18 months later healthy boy/girl twins the ideas of miscarriage or infertility had left my mind.  I was obviously made for baby making and mothering, this was my calling to bear babies and be surrounded by little ones.  So this has taken me completely by surprise. 

I already have three beautiful children which should help, and it does.  I know I am blessed but the pain is still there.  My poor kids just get suffocated with kisses and unexpected tears as if I may suddenly lose them too.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Double Frame

1. Two old frames of different sizes.
2. Spray painted them both white.  Let it dry over night.
3. Paint with acrylic craft paint. (I didn't want to have to buy anything doe this project so I used two colors and mixed them together to get the color I wanted.) 4. Before the paint dries wipe gently with a soft rag to get the glazed look.
5. Dry over night.
6. Put largest frame together with a mat.  You could use either fabric or craft paper as a mat.  I used paper.
7. Put together the frames with your picture in it and hot glue to to the glass of the larger frame.